Nothing is more destructive and tears a family apart a family than the use of drugs or alcohol. For that reason the earlier the involvement the better. The problem, sorry to say, is that in most cases teens and pre-teens are using drugs for months or even years before parents become aware of it. Sadly, parents often take it too lightly when they become aware of drug and or alcohol use.
If you suspect, don't ignore the warning signs. With some children, the stress of growing up and peer pressure is overpowering. Drugs and alcohol become an escape from the real world.
There is no single factor that determines who will use or be involved in drugs or alcohol. The following, are just some warning signs that your child may be involved:
WHAT TO LOOK FOR
Change in school work
Change in temper
Change in attitude
Neglected appearance
Physical appearance, runny nose, coughing, (Not due to a cold)
Red eyes wheezing, frequent sore throats
Change in friends
Poor self image
Letting friends influence them
Change in their environment - make room all black, gang paraphernalia etc...
Change in activities or hobbies
Hostility towards family members
Stealing, from family, friends, employers etc…
Jittery or defensiveness
Poor judgment
Change in sleeping and /or eating habits
Moody, aggressive rebellious behavior
Withdrawn and/or depression
Lack of communication
The relationship with the family starts to fall apart
Finding of drug paraphernalia
Secretive behavior involving phone calls, friends and whereabouts
Avoiding responsibility
Reduced motivation
Trouble with the law
Poor judgment about sex
Apathy
Resistance to discipline at home or school
Ignoring curfew
Seeing things that are "not normal"
If you recognize several of the signs, don’t freak out. Denial and shame are normal and just obstacles to overcome. You don’t want to believe that your child is involved. Don’t let that block you from accepting this reality.
Trust your instincts and do what you can to get proof. Search their clothing, their room, their car, etc., for drug paraphernalia. Talk frankly, open and honestly. Don't accuse, talk to them, not at them. Tell them that they are valued, loved and that you will help them. Make sure they know you will do whatever it takes and be supportive.
Realize and remember that many children can be helped. There are effective and successful programs available for help.
Don’t bury your head in the sand and hide from it. Get help, the sooner the better.
Here are some websites to get you started…
http://www.drugfree.org/Parent/
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